Do you know what your love language is?
You might say, "Ben, what does this have to do with fitness?" Well, just hold on for a minute.
Everyone has a love language! In the book, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, he lists 5 different loves language categories: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. If you are in a serious relationship or even want to understand your business partner better, you should read this book!
Typically, you fall more into one category than the others but if you're like my wife, you might fall into all five.
All of this to get to.... Words of affirmation. This is my love language but everyone needs them. Words of affirmation are easy to give and best of all FREE!
Don't judge me here but I was in a pie store the other day and the employee was just genuinely kind. Not fake pep... legit a cool, nice person. I can't even remember exactly what he said to me but I just remember leaving feeling better than I did when I went in. Maybe it was the pie... maybe the kind words... probably a combo!
And to the fitness, finally! Most New Years resolutioners have quit for the year but there are still a few left... probably on the brink of quitting. When you see a less experienced person in the gym say something kind, smile at them, and make them feel seen and welcome!
Probably even more important, we live in a digital age. A lot of people use instagram, TikTok, Facebook, etc... as a workout diary. You might be tired of seeing them post their Apple Watch workout stats but take the time to drop a comment on their post or story. It can be simple... "keep it up" "I'm proud of you" "way to go!"
Words go a long way to encourage people. Don't be one of the negative people. Use your words to uplift and encourage someone to keep after it!
Ben "Leg Day" Barker